Getting to know yourself again, beyond "mother".

🌬To the mom who doesn't remember what it feels like to put herself first. Do you even recognize YOU outside of the roles you play?

I am here with you and I know this season feels never ending. But you haven't lost yourself. You've just grown apart.

That feeling of self abandonment, created by increased demand in your life, is one that stings.🌬

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Reaching for Self Connection

🌤On the bright side, the relationship you have with yourself works similar to the relationships we build with others.

Treat getting to (re)know your true self, the way you would treat reconnecting with a dear friend you haven't met up with in years.🌤

✨️Reminisce on things you remember doing from the past, things that really felt like YOU. The moments that set your soul aflame, and left a lingering contentedness in your body afterwards.

Acknowledge that you haven't shown up for your inner world the way you used to before this stage of motherhood. Guilt and shame is not encouraged here. If those feelings do come up, remind yourself that your role as mother has taken precedence over all else. Release the guilt. In some seasons of motherhood there is little to no time to focus on self connection.

The simply act of taking accountability for not being there for yourself to hold space, is enough to open the doorway to a new kind of reconnection with yourself.

Sitting with yourself and holding space can feel foreign after months or years of disconnect. But I encourage you to keep going after that first meet up. Before you step back into mom mode, tell yourself, "It was really nice being here with you, again. I will meet with you again soon."

And then honor that promise. The next time you meet with yourself, dive a bit deeper. Do a body scan and record what comes up for you. Have conversations with yourself and ask what your needs or desires are in that moment.

If it feels right, tell yourself "I've missed you, and I value my time with you. I am so grateful we could get together again. I need you to know that I can't always show up the way I used to. If you feel lonely for a while again, I need you to know you're not forgotten. I'll be back when I can."

After each meeting, you should start to feel more comfortable. Your inner self will have gained more trust and confidence, knowing that you have honored your promise to check in more often. That alone builds a new foundation of love and trust for your outter and inner world to regain harmony and coexistence. ✨️

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"I've missed you"

🫶I don't want you to strive to be a perfect mom. I want you to be yourself, again.

The goal is not to add more to your already full plate. This is about opening a doorway back up that over time became energetically closed or blocked.

It's about stepping through that doorway and entering a sacred space that exists just for you, outside of the demands of motherhood.🫶